It’s THAT time of year again, we’ve all (hopefully) enjoyed the Christmas break; families reunited, we all overate and drank far too much, and we probably talked about the New Year… and that usually means somebody has made a resolution to change something in their life. Perhaps they want to quit smoking, change their job finally, get a partner, dump a partner, whatever it is, thousands of people are thinking ‘out with the old in with the new’ for 2015.
I’m all for people wanting to be at their very best, but just making a commitment to change is not enough to ensure success – it is merely the first step. Personally, I’m not a big fan of New Year’s resolutions for that very reason. Yes, the hype is all well and good, and it’s great to make a decision to change with other people, but there are many cons to this too. Here I outline just a few ideas to make your resolutions stick this time:
- Have an accountability partner!
Studies have shown conclusively that making and sharing a decision with another person that will hold you accountable will massively increase your chances of success. You want to pick someone who’s going to be supportive and encourage you, but who’ll also get tough with you when needed. Why not pick a colleague who’s made a resolution too?
- Write it down!
A goal that’s written down is far more likely to be acted on, it’s not just a thought or an idea in your head any more, it’s a tangible thing. If it’s an objective (like saving money, quitting a job, etc.) make sure it has a realistic date to achieve this by. A goal with no date is like firing an arrow without a target. Add detail to your goal. What will you feel like when you achieve it? Visualise what it will be like. The more concrete you can make it seem now, the far more likely you’ll be to keep going and succeed.
- Make a plan to succeed.
Just hoping you’ll hit your goal is almost always asking for failure. Have clear, small, written down steps of the ACTION you are going to take to reach your goal. It’s not a race, enjoy the journey, track your progress, and celebrate the small successes along the way.
You still have time to act on these suggestions before New Year’s Eve, get the right habits going now, involve your friends, have fun enjoying the new change. I’d love to hear about some of your resolutions in the comments section below, and if you need any help or support, just ask for there. I’ll do my best to answer as many as possible before the end of the year.
Good luck to you all!
Anthony Donnelly is the best-selling author of the inspirational parable for new leadership, “The Shepherd”. He is also a full-time motivational coach and hypnotherapist. He will be publishing a companion workbook to compliment his parable early in the New Year to share his teachings lessons, and advice on self-development and permanent self-transformation.