As StarTrekshould say, “FEAR… The final frontier!”
Think about it. What is stopping YOU from taking on the world and becoming EVERYTHING you were BORN to BE…? It’s not space, I can tell you that much! It’s…
That’s MY acronym. But eventually you’ll run out of energy and stop. But guess what, FEAR is right there with you, because it’s within you, with you, around you. The ONLY way to combat fear is to take it on with action. So, in Part Three, the next step in taking control over your fears is to list the top three fears you have and tackle them head-on!
What are YOUR top three fears?
This is the biggest step you’ll ever take in overcoming your fears. Once you KNOW that everybody has them, but doesn’t know how to deal with them, hopefully you’ll feel more comfortable sharing your insecurities. Once they are out of your head and in the public domain, they have no more power over you, especially if you have taken the steps to love yourself and invest in your own self-value.
In the spirit of sharing, here are my three biggest fears:
Asking for help/ showing weakness
Opening up/ Letting people in
Lack of recognition/ rejection
I think I’ve tackled them in this blog post, and that was part of the idea. I still need help, but I’ve done it. The next step is having the confidence to get out there and do some public speaking on the subject…!
Once you know what your top three fears are, make a conscious effort every day to do what scares you most. Take baby steps at first, but make it part of your daily routine. After a while the feeling of fear will become less and less until it becomes small enough to manage. It may even disappear completely! Trust me, once you have taken control over your fears, there really will be nothing to hold you back in life.
It has been a while since I released a new book. I have many works simmering in the background, and fortunately my acting career has taken a front seat this year involving a lot of international travel. I have also been preoccupied with a new song project, which I’ll expand on towards the end of this post.
BUT finally the wait is over!
It’s a short book with a very unassuming cover, much in the style of my goal-setting book. The focus is on problem solving this time: practical steps to put your personal issues into perspective and create workable solutions.
An extract from the introduction should shed some light on the direction of this new work:
“There are more diamonds in the world than people… AND we think they are precious! There are more bank notes in the world than people… AND we think they have value! There are more books in the world than people… AND we think they contain knowledge! There are more flowers in the world than people… AND we think they have beauty! BUT, as insignificant as you may feel, you are UNIQUE, so that kinda makes you rather special, don’t you think?”
It was inspired from a very long conversation with a great friend that I’ve known for many, many years. They were stuck in what they saw as an impossible situation, and our conversation circled round and round without them really wanting to take any action to remedy their problem. They were using every trick in the book to try and get out of accepting THEY were responsible for where they were. In the end I had to hang up and send them a copy of one of my parables to read in the hope the simplicity and metaphor would soak into their subconscious and they would find the right path again.
This book is a dilution of that conversation. I hope you enjoy it, and it is of use to you.
If you’d like a review copy in exchange for your opinion and thoughts on it, please write a message in the comments section below. Thank you!
Anthony James Donnelly is an author, motivational and business coach, and life guide. He has spent over 20 years working directly with individuals and corporations to adjust their perspectives on life. In his last book, “My First Goal-Setting Book: How To Effectively Set & Achieve Your Life Goals”, he concisely explains how to get whatever you want out of life. A great accompaniment to “WHY DO i CARE?”
We’ve all thought about it. We’ve all said we’ll take a break. We’ve all contemplated a life without Facebook, but… How many of us actually do it… and more importantly, stick with it?
It’s June 4th, 2017 – I was going to wait until Independence Day, for the significance, but I thought, ‘Why delay?” So, as of a few hours ago, I am now OFFICIALLY Facebook-free… a status more and more people are opening up to. And do you know what…? IT FEELS GREAT…!
It has nothing to do with faces, and nothing to do with books. Food people are eating… Gripes and complaints… Self-promotion… Self-grandulation… gossip… and utter dross… Oh, and Facebook collecting lots of information about you to sell you sh*t you don’t want or need. It really has nothing to do with bringing people closer together. Nothing to do with changing the world for the better. Such an international platform for connectivity hasn’t done a thing for World Peace and Global Unity… in fact, it really looks like it has helped to perpetuate the elitist status quo.
“Facebook is the grazing field for Sheeple!”
What does ‘Mark’ care, he’s made his billions? I hope it’s a short-lived Pandora’s Box… because that will at least leave us with HOPE. Thank goodness Elon Musk was not as shallow and short-sighted. Not all ‘child’ billionaires are created without a soul and a conscience.
Facebook-free, The Future
So, day one of Facebook detox… I look up at a lovely, blue sky. The birds are chirping. The world hasn’t ended. I’m still going to give us much, love as much, and be the best me I can be… I’m going to be forcced to ACTUALLY meet and call people IN PERSON…! ‘Old School’ seems to be taking a bit of a rivival…! No more hiding behind aliases. No more reclusive behaviour… Go out and experience the world…!
I’m going to chronicle my Facebook ‘detox’ here… who knows who’ll read it, I don’t care. This is NOT Facebook.
I’m Good Enough, And So Are You!
I forgive you, if you are addicted to Facebook. Free yourself! I haven’t even published this yet, and I’m already being ‘attacked’ by the nay-sayers! Bah Humbug, to you all…! You are as individual as a sunset, why not watch one for a change, actually experience it, feel it, rather than snap it and post it on Facebook to see how popular you might be? I don’t know who you are, I don’t care WHO you are, BUT I care about you. You are unique, you are special, you have something to give and contribute to the world around you.
I’m not saying what I’m doing should be a social media wipe-epidemic, but at least consider scaling back. How much of YOUR life do you lose in ‘Mark’s World’? Have you been ‘Zuckered-in’? You only have one life. YOUR life is precious. Your experience of YOUR life is precious!
The Matrix. It was a metaphor. You’re not a battery, but what do you produce, and for whom…? Why…?
Ask yourself some questions. IF you ARE a battery…
What does the world look like, that you want to live in?
What role do you play in that world?
Why do you deserve that role?
What are you prepared to GIVE to have that role in that world?
Do you really have any ‘friends’?
When was the last time you read a book?
Why not ‘unplug’ from the Matrix…?
Anthony James Donnelly is an author, motivational and business coach, and life guide. He has spent over 20 years working directly with individuals and corporations to adjust their perspectives on life. In his latest book, “My First Goal-Setting Book: How To Effectively Set & Achieve Your Life Goals”, he concisely explains how to get whatever you want out of life. Dumping Facebook is just the first step to freedom…!
It’s Christmas. A time for love, generousity, and for giving, or ‘forgiving’. For this reason, ALL my kindle books will be free both today (Christmas Day) and tomorrow (Boxing Day) as a way of saying thank you to all my friends old and new, and spreading more of the spirit of the season.
All I ask in return is, if you download a copy of my book, please take a few minutes to honestly rate and review the book on amazon 🙂
NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS:
I’m not really one for making resolutions for New Year, but at this time I do like to reflect back on the past few months and take stock. Like many of you, I’m sure, this has been a great year, but also a bummer of a year. I lost two very great and dear friends: Dr. Wayne Dyer, a motivational force in my life, and Richard Anthony Eyre, an old school friend.
They will both be missed.
On the upside, I’ve met and made numerous new friends, mostly in the film and TV industry. Another positive to the year: I’m very excited at the great progress I’ve made since April of breaking back into the acting world again. A short film I starred in landed at Cannes, thanks to the wonderful director Miho Sugita. I finally got an agent! And I have two new film scripts doing the rounds. It’s almost as if my life has come full circle and I’ve arrived back where I was before I left sixteen years ago!
On the writing front, my books continue to sell – Thank you all for that! Although I feel a little lazy at not having completed ALL the new books I had planned to publish this year, they are still in the works and WILL BE published in 2016. How about that for positive thinking?!
Talking of positive thinking, it’s been wonderful to connect with some old friends (Tony Wilson, and Trevor Oakland, to name just two!) from the distant past and indulge my other passion for self-development and motivation. When there’s something you just can’t help yourself from doing, then that’s a good sign you should be doing it (if it’s positive in nature!)
Did I Give Enough, Live Enough, Laugh Enough, and Love Enough…?
When I reflect back on this year, there’s one question I ask myself, and that’s written above. I have certainly laughed a lot this year, thanks to new friends, Stephen, Jo, Louise, Helen, Ness, Rachael, and Darryl. Did I give enough…? I’m sure I could have given more, but within my financial constraints I think I gave as much as I could monetarily, on a personal level, definitely! As far as living enough, I don’t think there’s much more this little chap could have crammed into the last 12 months. I always consider myself as lazy, but then look at what I’ve managed to do and wonder why I keep thinking that! And then there’s love… ah, that sweet, alusive thing… As far as giving my love away, that has been joyously done over the year. More on a platonic level than romantic, but there is always hope…! I’m sure, somewhere out there, there is a young lady that has the patience to put up with my ‘insanity’.
Well, if you’ve read this far, I commend you. What a ramble! Here are the links to my free books. Enjoy! Share! And for all of you I have not yet wished a very Merry Christmas and a superb New Year, that was it.
Click on the book cover to take you to the amazon link for the book (sorry, these are US links. You’ll have to transfer to the country link you need!)
WHEN THE RAINBOW SMILED
A delighful, powerful short read accompanied by 19 exceptional watercolour paintings. Peace, love, harmony and balance.
A new age parable about connecting and listening to your heart. Let the Shepherd guide you to where you should be in life.
THE COCKROACH CHRONICLES
Can we learn about ourselves from probably one of the most detested creatures on the planet? Find out through a series of ten letters this brave, little thing writes back to those at home fighting the Eternal War…
49Q? THE ENIGMA CONTINUES
Not an easy read this one, I’ll give you that. This is an experimental novel, part of a trilogy, a film, and a musical album that never quite made it off the ground. Read at your peril, is all I say… It almost drove me mad writing it, but it’s full of philosophy, ridiculousness, and mischief. It’ll make sense once you’ve read it!
Remember, if you download a copy, please leave a rating and review, thank you very much!
Would you like some great coaching to help put you on the right path to success in your acting career?
This is a unique opportunity to do both in one three hour session on July 20th, 2015, with top photographer Vanessa Champion and Lifestyle Architecture (TM) coach Anthony Donnelly. In addition to all the benefits you’ll get listed below, every participant has the opportunity to WIN their session for FREE, just as our way of saying thank you and giving something extra back.
What You’ll Get:
• 10 Great Headshots (£250 value)
• x2-3 costume changes
• Strategic Life Coaching (£250 value)
• The ‘Business’ of Acting Briefing
• Strengths & Opportunities Analysis (£100 value)
• The Success Action Plan
• Peer Networking
TOTAL VALUE: £600.00
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London is so vast, so fascinating, so full of life and things to observe. London is an experience. London is ever changing and evolving. In a way it’s like being at a cultural ‘all you can eat’ buffet…! Where do you start? Which bit do you see first? Well, having now experienced a Bullshit London Tour firsthand last night, I can safely say this would be a great appetizer for anyone new to London, AND anyone that’s lived here their whole life.
I arrived early at the front of St. Paul’s Cathedral where the tour kicks off every Thursday at 7pm, and just as the website says, the tour guide was VERY easy to spot. Quite a crowd had gathered for the first tour of their 2015 season – about 30+ ‘grown-ups’ looking for a good time and some serious BS. From what I could make out, the crowd consisted of a few couples and a large group of office workers adding a touch of originality to a leaving party. Many were already in quite high spirits, and adult beverages aren’t frowned upon (as long as you drink responsibly).
After a quick head count to ensure nobody will be left behind and the ‘legalities’ are taken care of (you’ll have to take a tour to find out what that’s all about!) the tour quickly jumps into high gear and the BS starts flowing like a Monsoon river in the rainy season! Some of the comedy is intellectual, but still very accessible to those without an Ox-bridge education, but mostly it is sharp, edgy, and downright silly, with the participants having to dodge the odd pun or two!
The tour trips along at quite a pace, and Reuben Williams (the creator of Bullshit London back in 2013 and the main tour guide) keeps the narrative lively and the group buzzing. Before you know it you are discovering ridiculous facts about The Roman Renaissance Movement of the 1800s… the new Russian Quarter of London… tales of the London Mermaid… and the spot where Queen Victoria exploded… amongst other things!
Taking about two hours to complete, it’s a good job for the drinkers that there’s a halfway stopping point and ‘toilet break’ location en route. This also allows the crowd to familiarize themselves with each other, chat about the jokes and gags, and generally allow their minds to soak in all the Bull.
For those readers that know nothing of Bullshit London Tours, I should add a little word of explanation at this stage before you get completely lost. These aren’t your average, boring city tours with a stuffy, old historian-type guide who knows it all and loves the sound of his own voice… no sir, no indeed… this is more a walk on the wild side… the type of tour of the cool kids on the block that want ‘in’ on what’s really going on. If you’re the kind of person that never gets invited to parties, or hear about things after the fact, you probably won’t even be reading this, let alone go on a tour! As their website (www.bullshitlondon.com) states they will show you “the kind of London that would have happened if Monty Python had been elected Queen.” The landmarks are real, but the facts about them are completely made up.
In three years, Williams has managed to grow quite a cult following, and the tours get bigger and bigger each year. The participants range from stag nights and office parties, to Australian tourists, along with locals just out for a bit of fun. When I asked him the largest group he’d ever taken round, he said it was close to 60 people for a special event. Confident, charismatic, and well versed in BS, Williams is the perfect host for a fun night out in London.
I certainly got my tenner’s worth of bullshit last night and have a thoroughly brilliant night.