Don’t Make Resolutions, Set Goals!

As we start to see Christmas merchandise flood the shelves of our stores, it reminds me that another year is soon coming to an end, and that means some people will be thinking about making some New Years Resolutions.

My advice to you is… DON’T.

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Instead I’d advise you to start thinking and planning what you want for 2020 now. Ask yourself this question: “If you didn’t plan to be in the situation you are in now, who’s fault is it?”

This is not an opportunity to blame other people, it is YOUR fault that you are where you are now, if you didn’t PLAN to be somewhere else. In my book “My First Goal-setting Book” you will learn that goal-setting is natural, easy, and can be a lot of fun. In plain English I explain all the steps you’ll need to take to achieve absolutely anything you want in life.

So what are you waiting for? Don’t wait until you’re full of Christmas cheer and looking back on 2019 wondering why your life isn’t as great as it could be. Take control of your future and set some goals, make some plans, act on them daily, and who knows where you could be this time next year!

 

 

Book Reviews: When The Trees Held Their Breath

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Greta Thunberg

Since staging her school strike last year, Greta Thunberg, the young, Swedish student, has brought the urgent topic of Climate Change back into the media spotlight. But it is not enough for us to just read and talk about this crisis, we need action now! We all need to do our part, but most importantly we need to put more pressure on our politicians and big business to reverse the effects of Global Warming.

In 1986, when I was Greta’s age, I too was a strong campaigner for environmental issues, as I still am to this day. I have personally grown and planted thousands of trees in the countries I have lived over the years. Unfortunately, back when I was 16, we had no internet, no social media, and you had to walk to the local call box to make a phone call. On top of that, the majority of people still believed that “children should be seen and not heard”, so to get any adult to listen to you was practically impossible! The best I could do was to write about my concerns, so I penned “When The Trees Held Their Breath”, a short, but very powerful piece of poetic prose about the plight of our planet, and sent it to publishers. Hundreds of publishers later, at age 29, a very small imprint picked it up and released it the next year.

Trees 2019 Book CoverAlthough there was a lot of talk and hype in the media about Climate Change, Global Warming, Animal Extinction, etc. – it was all, quite literally, just ‘hot air’ – the book was a flop! The Right Wing media and book reviewers shredded it, including some hate mail.

It wasn’t all bad news though. Those that did read it were very praiseworthy, and the reaction from people that heard me read it at public events were often brought to tears.

Through the new technology of the internet and self-publishing, I am now able to release my words once more, and I hope more people are listening this time, as it’s now 33 years later and the problem is even worse than ever before. I thought I’d share with you some of the kind reviews people have posted from when it was first released:

“From the first few lines of this book to the very ending it speaks so loudly ! This is an environmentally awakening poetic prose which tells a simple story of how the world we live in has through ‘progress’ created a world of polluted and congested by-products. It is a simple reminder of the state of things on this planet Earth.”
“How can such a small book say so much? This book is deep, moving, enlightening… I could write many more adjectives, however… all that is needed to say is ‘Go read the magic for yourself!'”
“Oh God YES…!!! This book just says it all, says everything that needs to be said LOUDLY to the world about what we are stupidly doing to our dear planet Earth.”
“‘When The Trees Held Their Breath’ by Anthony James Donnelly,is a wonderful story,he captures your mind and brings you into a journey your soul has never been. It is sad that todays world justifies the killing of our Earth for the almighty dollar.This story allows you and encourages you to explore the effects that Humans and Technology have on Our Mother Earth.As an Environmentalist and a future teacher I would reccomend this Magificent Book…”
“This book… well, it blew me away! I’ve always thought I was ‘into the environment’ but once I read this book I realized how little we have achieved. Donnelly doesn’t really talk about ‘issues’ (well, how much can you talk about in so few words!?) but what he does do is write such powerful and poetic images that you are tranced… I was… just a few images in I was off, thinking about how bad this could get unless we REALLY do start doing something to change the mess we are in!”
“This amazing work of art is an inspiration to all; young and old alike to take a step back and look at the disintergration of our beloved planet. As important as progress is, we, THE EARTH’S PEOPLE, have gone too far; mining every last resource of the earth, detroying the forests, and worst of all, producing not just the wonderful products mankind is so proud of, but also the bi-product-POLLUTION. If everyone held their breath for a minute they would see just how precious oxygen is to us. I highly recommend this book to everyone adult, child, and every industry known to man.”

BUY THE EBOOK AND HELP SAVE OUR PLANET AND OUR PEOPLE

Words From A Dying Man

The last words I heard from my father, when he didn’t know he was going to die, were, “Don’t be in such a hurry this time!” Four days later, he was dead.

None of us know when our time will come, we just know it WILL come. Who are we cheating by not thinking it could come tomorrow? Or today? Or within hours… minutes… seconds…? Who are we cheating?

Isn’t it only our selves?

If you think you’re going to live forever, it gives you more time to excuse yourself for not doing NOW what you should be doing. That ‘thing’ you’ve wanted to start, why not start it now? That dream you’ve been putting off pursuing, why not do it NOW? Those things you’ve wanted to say, or do, or write, why put it off…?

You only have NOW.

If not now, then when?

Let me tell you a cold, hard, truth, no matter what you think you believe, YOU WILL NOT LIVE FOREVER.

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my_first_goalsettin_cover_for_kindleAnthony James Donnelly is an author, motivational and business coach, and life guide. He has spent over 20 years working directly with individuals and corporations to adjust their perspectives on life. In his latest book, “My First Goal-Setting Book: How To Effectively Set & Achieve Your Life Goals”, he concisely explains how to get whatever you want out of life.

 

It’s An Impatient World…

I’m not sure that procrastination is the opposite of impatience, but there is a lush green meadow between the two where the sun is constantly warm and the time is always right. I’m an impatient person, and an impatient writer, I openly admit that. I guess that’s why I love blogging! It allows immediate release of that creative urge. But I only blog when the time is right. That said, I have just published two books – almost back-to-back – one after 32 years, and the other after 19 years. So what does that tell you about me?

Like many writers, I wanted to have them published as soon as I finished writing them. I thought they were ready for the world and the world was ready for them! However, I have also been told I am a writer ahead of my time. As I grew up, I was constantly being compared to writers of the past: CS Lewis, Shakespeare, Beckett… Flattering as that may have been, it didn’t curb my impatience! I wanted the world to hear me NOW!

But nobody was listening.

We live in a deafeningly silent world. Don’t get me wrong, there’s a lot of noise, an awful lot of noise, AWFUL NOISE, but nothing is really being said. Everybody is screaming, “Listen to me! Listen to me!” but when they get the mike, what do they actually say?

“I Want It ALL And I want It NOW!”

Okay, you’ve got it. What do you want? They don’t know. It’s like lottery winners that lose it all within a few years, and all their friends, and all their happiness, and… They can’t ever go back to how it was before.

What is it you want? And what is your impatience? What do you lack now that makes you want it so badly? If you think you ‘deserve’ it, can you justify that? When you have two ears, two eyes, and only one mouth, what makes you use them disproportionately? Do you really have something to say?

I don’t write to feel good about myself. I don’t write to pass the time. I don’t write to become somebody. I write because I am a vessel. I take no credit for what I write, it just flows through me. I started ‘channeling’ when I was an early teenager. I called them my ‘writing guides’. They would talk and I would write. I’m not religious, in fact I rate religion right up there with tattoos! Graffiti your body as you wish, and graffiti your mind at your peril.

So What Does This Have To Do With Impatience?

Why the rush? If you’re writing to make money, most likely it won’t happen. If you’re writing to share the latest, greatest thing, they most likely already know. In fact, if you are doing anything that isn’t getting you in touch with who you REALLY are, you’ve missed the whole point of being alive in the first place (assuming you ARE actually alive!)

Urgency… Immediacy… Imperativeness… Really? When was the last time you actually stopped and thought about your breathing? And while you think about that, when was the last time you stopped and THOUGHT? We are all so caught up in the ‘machine’ of life we barely give a breath or thought to the world and the life around us.

You want me to notice you, but how much time do you give to noticing me? Or for that matter noticing yourself?

One day there will be an ‘app’ for that.

 

Dear Dad – The Letters Home

“I love to write, but I hate to promote myself!”

Can any of you relate to that? We could all probably substitute ‘write’ for whatever we are passionate about. However, promotion is what gets us noticed, and being noticed is what counts these days, right?

Dear Dad coverIn an attempt NOT to be noticed, I thought I’d slip this in very late over the weekend…

It’s a book I’ve been sat on for about 19 years – yes, I have a habit of sitting on things (chairs mostly, as I write for part of my living!) and not sharing my personal feelings – but it got read recently, and well… I got persuaded to share it, finally.

“Don’t read it if you don’t like crying! It WILL make you cry.”

I’ve been told a lot recently, that I must like making people cry. Honestly, I don’t. I write what comes from my heart and my soul. This is a very personal collection of ten letters that I’ve wanted to share for many, many years.

THERE! Now I’ve done it. Happy now?

If you want to read them, either click on the book cover (which I hope you like) or click on this link: Dear Dad – The Letters Home.

 

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my_first_goalsettin_cover_for_kindleAnthony James Donnelly is an author, actor, motivational and business coach, life guide, and entrepreneur. He has spent over 20 years working directly with individuals and corporations to adjust their perspectives on life and business. In his best selling publication, “My First Goal-Setting Book: How To Effectively Set & Achieve Your Life Goals”, he concisely explains how to get whatever you want out of life by following his simple, tried and tested steps.

 

New Blog: My First Goal-Setting Book

Firstly, a big thank you to everyone that has bought, read, downloaded, reviewed, used, and commented on my simple, easy-to-read book about changing your life through setting goals and taking manageable steps to achieve them.

Since I’m getting more and more interest in MY FIRST GOAL-SETTING BOOK and my motivational and self-development posts, I’ve decided to create a stand-alone site just for that book and that subject:

MY FIRST GOAL-SETTING BOOK BLOG

This will allow me to keep this blog focused on other things, musings, author interviews, upcoming books I’m working on and thinking of publishing soon, and things that are going on in my life. The other site will focus exclusively on personal development and goal-setting advice.

Thank you once again for all your help, support, and encouragement.

Anthony

Life: Some Words To Live By

LIFE:

You’ve either got to to deal with it, or it will deal with you. Shit’s gonna happen, accept it. Some of it you’ll have caused, some of it you’ll have attracted, some of it will be beyond your control, learn from it. Life is your biggest teacher, if you’re willing to listen and learn. Things won’t always go your way. Find a new way. Keep moving forward. Time does. Learn from it.

There is no dress rehearsal for Life. This is it. Give it your all. Give it your best. Fill your life with as much and as many experiences as you can. Some will be good and some will be bad. That’s what keeps life exciting: you never truly know. Hopefully you’ll find balance along the way.

Keep your expectations high, but your acceptance higher. Nobody’s perfect, but they are unique. Find and love your uniqueness; those things that make you ‘you’. There is greatness within all of us. Seek it out in everyone you meet, and your own greatness will be reflected back at you. Add love to every situation, good or bad. Love is the energy of Life. Love your friends. Love your family. Love yourself. But love your enemies more, because we are all one. We are all love. We are all Life.

Live your life so you can look forward to the future, if you are lucky enough to have one. Don’t dwell on the past, it’s a ship that’s sailed and is never coming back. Regrets, like grudges, will drown you, let them go, forgive, seek  forgiveness, and swim on. Embrace the present, for that is all you ever have and will have. Unwrap it as the gift it is. This is all you have and all you are.

This is your life, live it your way, on your terms. Don’t try and live someone else’s life for them, and don’t let them tell you how to live yours. Be grateful for everything you have. Even if others have more, there are many more with less. Seek them out. Help your fellow Man. In helping and serving others you will gain much, much more than you could ever give.

If you only ever believe in one thing, believe in yourself. Respect your elders, but accept they may not know what’s truly right for you. Pursue your dreams, for that is the rainbow that will bring your happiness to life. You are never given a dream without the ability to achieve it. But know your true happiness always is within you.

Live your life with passion. Laugh as often as you can, but never at anyone else’s expense, unless it’s your own.

I hope when you look back on your life you’ll smile, feel proud, and even if nobody else noticed, at least you knew you were here.

(c) 2019, Anthony James Donnelly

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my_first_goalsettin_cover_for_kindleAnthony James Donnelly is an author, motivational and business coach, and life guide. He has spent over 20 years working directly with individuals and corporations to adjust their perspectives on life. In his latest book, “My First Goal-Setting Book: How To Effectively Set & Achieve Your Life Goals”, he concisely explains how to get whatever you want out of life.

 

 

How To Overcome Fear – Part Three

As StarTrek should say, “FEAR… The final frontier!”

Think about it. What is stopping YOU from taking on the world and becommy_first_goalsettin_cover_for_kindleing EVERYTHING you were BORN to BE…? It’s not space, I can tell you that much! It’s…

F-E-A-R…!

  • Fuck
  • Everything
  • And
  • Run…!

That’s MY acronym. But eventually you’ll run out of energy and stop. But guess what, FEAR is right there with you, because it’s within you, with you, around you. The ONLY way to combat fear is to take it on with action. So, in Part Three, the next step in taking control over your fears is to list the top three fears you have and tackle them head-on!

What are YOUR top three fears?

This is the biggest step you’ll ever take in overcoming your fears. Once you KNOW that everybody has them, but doesn’t know how to deal with them, hopefully you’ll feel more comfortable sharing your insecurities. Once they are out of your head and in the public domain, they have no more power over you, especially if you have taken the steps to love yourself and invest in your own self-value.

In the spirit of sharing, here are my three biggest fears:

  1. Asking for help/ showing weakness
  2. Opening up/ Letting people in
  3. Lack of recognition/ rejection

I think I’ve tackled them in this blog post, and that was part of the idea. I still need help, but I’ve done it. The next step is having the confidence to get out there and do some public speaking on the subject…!

Once you know what your top three fears are, make a conscious effort every day to do what scares you most. Take baby steps at first, but make it part of your daily routine. After a while the feeling of fear will become less and less until it becomes small enough to manage. It may even disappear completely! Trust me, once you have taken control over your fears, there really will be nothing to hold you back in life.

Thank you for following and reading.

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my_first_goalsettin_cover_for_kindleAnthony James Donnelly is an author, motivational and business coach, and life guide. He has spent over 20 years working directly with individuals and corporations to adjust their perspectives on life. In his latest book, “My First Goal-Setting Book: How To Effectively Set & Achieve Your Life Goals”, he concisely explains how to get whatever you want out of life.

 

 

 

How To Overcome Fear – Part Two

my_first_goalsettin_cover_for_kindleAfter the overwhelming response to How To Overcome Fear 101, my first article on the subject, I decided to do overcoming fear 202, or Part Two!

We’ve all experienced fear at one time or another, so let’s just dwell on that for a minute. Here’s a short exercise that might help you the next time fear arises in your life:

  1. Think of something in the past you were afraid of, but aren’t any more.
  2. Go back in time in your memory to when you were afraid (it won’t feel the same, as you’ve gone past it, but try to remember how you felt)
  3. Try as best as you can to visualize yourself trying to confront it.
  4. The more you thought about NOT doing it, the bigger and more frightening it became, right?
  5. What did you do and think about to NOT confront it?
  6. That didn’t help, did it?
  7. Now either one of two things happened: A. You were forced to confront it, or B. You were brave enough to tackle it yourself.
  8. You came out the other side and YOU SURVIVED…!

Overcoming fear is a daily challenge for us all at some level. What is scary to some isn’t for others, don’t let other people laugh at your fears, they are genuine and justified! Learning to confront and deal with our fears is part of life. How you choose to deal with your fear obstacles will determine how far you go in life. As you remember back to that fear you overcame, what did you do to overcome it?

If you can relate to the exercise above, why not think about that a little longer while I share my favorite quotation:

“Fear lives in the future.

Regret lives in the past.

Live in the Present, for that is what it is, a gift.”

AND that is my best advice to you when dealing with FEAR… bring it into the present moment. If you’d followed the guidance of article one, you’ve written it down, you’ve taken it out of your head, now it’s time to live in the NOW.

Far too many people are not living the lives they were born to live, because they are afraid of what might happen. In all my years of working with people, the two biggest obstacles are fear of DEATH and fear of the UNKNOWN. Personally, I lump them both together, as none of us know what death actually is, so it’s unknown. So, what are they actually afraid of when they say they are scared of Death or the Unknown?

My answer is that they don’t know who they are.

I don’t want to get too philosophical, but we can’t know Death until we die, and by definition the unknown is unknowable, so why stress and worry about it? At the core of both is the questioner – your self – you are not dead, and if you know yourself, you know enough to live your life.

In Part Three we’ll look at actually tackling your fears head-on…

 

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my_first_goalsettin_cover_for_kindleAnthony James Donnelly is an author, motivational and business coach, and life guide. He has spent over 20 years working directly with individuals and corporations to adjust their perspectives on life. In his latest book, “My First Goal-Setting Book: How To Effectively Set & Achieve Your Life Goals”, he concisely explains how to get whatever you want out of life.

 

 

 

How To Overcome Fear – Part One

my_first_goalsettin_cover_for_kindleMy FREE BOOK weekend was a big success, so thank you to all of you that partook. I hope you find it useful in getting a great start to 2019. However, some people who have read my book, “My First Goal-Setting Book”, have written to me asking about overcoming fear, so I thought I’d tackle this subject in a blog post.

I deliberately left this out of the book, as it is aimed at people that already have dreams and goals in mind, and have already overcome the hurdle of inactivity due to fear, but I’ll cover it simply below.

Many of you may have heard of the acronym for fear:

  • False
  • Expectations
  • Appearing
  • Real

The first thing to know about fear is that it’s natural. Everybody at some time in their lives (yes, even me!) experiences fear. Now, just so we are all on the same page here, when I talk about fear in this context I’m not relating to phobias nor situations of mortal danger, I’m referring to negative mental games we play with ourselves that stop us acting on our goals and dreams. You may be surprised to know that fear is the major reason the vast majority of people never even TRY to do anything new or different in their lives!

So, if we all experience fear, how come some people allow it to stop them, and others deal with it and get on with life?

Even successful people feel fear from time to time, the difference is they have developed systems to combat that fear and move through it. I’m going to highlight a few basic techniques you can use to overcome most of your fears.

1. Write It Down!

Most of our fears are ‘mental demons’, they live in our heads, we try to hide them, certainly never talking about them, and the more we feed our fears with attention, the more our imaginations run wild. Take a few moments to write down EXACTLY what it is you think you are scared of. Often times just the exercise of really thinking about it ON PAPER is enough to put it in perspective.

2. Action ALWAYS Cures Fear!

The next time you feel fear, shorten the time between feeling scared and actually acting on it. As said, most fears are not real, they are mental monsters, and the longer we sit on them without acting, the bigger they become. Perhaps you have a phone call to make, but you are scared of how it will go, rather than dwell on it, just pick up the phone and make the call. Perhaps you want to ask someone out on a date, why wait until someone else asks them out, just go for it!

3. Play It In Reverse.

This is the one that I find most useful in my life. Whatever it is I’m procrastinating about or scared of doing – usually those awkward phone calls! – I write down what I’m scared of, then I picture the outcome I want, I really get in touch with how I FEEL after I’ve made that call. I play the scene backwards with that feeling. Only when I feel totally calm and comfortable do I make that call. You know what, over 90% of the time the call goes exactly as I imagined it.

Obviously there’s not enough space in one blog to fully cover this topic – there are hundred of books on the subject, if you wish to find out more – but these are just some of the tricks that I use and work for me. As with most new things, it’s going to take some time and practice, but of all the things you can learn in life, getting a grip on your fears will be one of the best things you did.

I’d love to hear how you get on, so just drop me some of your experiences in the comments section below.

HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR – PART TWO

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my_first_goalsettin_cover_for_kindleAnthony James Donnelly is an author, motivational and business coach, and life guide. He has spent over 20 years working directly with individuals and corporations to adjust their perspectives on life. In his latest book, “My First Goal-Setting Book: How To Effectively Set & Achieve Your Life Goals”, he concisely explains how to get whatever you want out of life.